“The levers are here. The proof is here. The power is here. The only thing holding you back is your own fear. Not easy to admit, but essential to understand.” –Seth Godin, Tribes
You’ve been flirting with the idea of going solo and starting your own business for a while. The more you think about it, the more excited you get. You can see it in your mind – what a beautiful vision. You start getting worked up and gung-ho about it… Till either IT strikes, or the fear of IT striking strikes: What if you put yourself out there, bare your soul, passion and heart to the world… and they hate it.
Our fear and almost phobia-like dread of criticism and judgment is what really paralyzes us. It’s just as bad as being stripped naked in front of a bunch of people. Complete horror. We are so committed to looking good, being liked and accepted that it shapes who we are – or at least the face we show the world. Like a little puppy begging for attention, inside we are silently shouting the same: “Like me! Like me! Like me! (because if you don’t I am worth jack shit)”. Authenticity goes right out the window.
Truth: there will always be people who aren’t going to like you or your work. But should that stop you from freeing your voice, passion and vision? Should it keep you small and silent in the shadows of the masses for fear of being singled out? Will that make for a fulfilling and elevated life?
Guess what? Your real power is totally independent from what others think of you and whether or not they like you. Just as it’s inevitable that those people will criticize you and/or your work, it’s just as inevitable that you’re going to find fans – those who are so aligned with your vision they naturally gravitate towards you. They then share your message with other soon-to-be fans and voila – you’ve gone viral.
But, you’ll never give yourself a chance to see that bloom if you stay small. When you find your passion, your WHY, your unique voice – you also find your strength. That’s what badasses are – they are so in love with their vision, the mark they’re leaving in their worlds and the ripple effect to those who can benefit from their work that they are willing to deal with a few critics. They boldly face this so-called opposition head on, because they know that it will only make them STRONGER.
That’s the thing about critics – if you’re brave enough to be you and encounter them as you walk along you will find they are your greatest teachers. They leverage your game. They sharpen your soul and mind. They perfect your mission and vision. (And pssssst – if they’re talking about you, you can feel flattered that they find you worthy of mentioning!)
You’ve been flirting with the idea of going solo and starting your own business for a while. The more you think about it, the more excited you get. You can see it in your mind – what a beautiful vision. You start getting worked up and gung-ho about it… Till either IT strikes, or the fear of IT striking strikes: What if you put yourself out there, bare your soul, passion and heart to the world… and they hate it.
Our fear and almost phobia-like dread of criticism and judgment is what really paralyzes us. It’s just as bad as being stripped naked in front of a bunch of people. Complete horror. We are so committed to looking good, being liked and accepted that it shapes who we are – or at least the face we show the world. Like a little puppy begging for attention, inside we are silently shouting the same: “Like me! Like me! Like me! (because if you don’t I am worth jack shit)”. Authenticity goes right out the window.
Truth: there will always be people who aren’t going to like you or your work. But should that stop you from freeing your voice, passion and vision? Should it keep you small and silent in the shadows of the masses for fear of being singled out? Will that make for a fulfilling and elevated life?
Guess what? Your real power is totally independent from what others think of you and whether or not they like you. Just as it’s inevitable that those people will criticize you and/or your work, it’s just as inevitable that you’re going to find fans – those who are so aligned with your vision they naturally gravitate towards you. They then share your message with other soon-to-be fans and voila – you’ve gone viral.
But, you’ll never give yourself a chance to see that bloom if you stay small. When you find your passion, your WHY, your unique voice – you also find your strength. That’s what badasses are – they are so in love with their vision, the mark they’re leaving in their worlds and the ripple effect to those who can benefit from their work that they are willing to deal with a few critics. They boldly face this so-called opposition head on, because they know that it will only make them STRONGER.
That’s the thing about critics – if you’re brave enough to be you and encounter them as you walk along you will find they are your greatest teachers. They leverage your game. They sharpen your soul and mind. They perfect your mission and vision. (And pssssst – if they’re talking about you, you can feel flattered that they find you worthy of mentioning!)
So this week:
• Find your unique voice – that mission and vision about your business.
• Communicate that message with passion.
• Silently thank and bless your “haters” and use them to make you better.
• Do not give up – even when you’re in tears.
Help me spread my vision of fearlessly fabulous women starting and growing successful and passion-filled solo-business all over the freakin’ globe!
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