Exclusive selectivity in business and life...

When I was a teenager, my dad told me something that stuck with me, “Dime con quien vas, y te dire quien eres” (Tell me who you’re hanging out with and I’ll tell you who you are). At the time it seemed harsh to hear – thinking I could do no wrong at the ripe old age of 15 but my father’s wisdom has proven to carry forth into my adult years.

You’ve probably heard this before, and if you haven’t you should listen up: You are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with.

Who you decide to share your time and energy with the most is not only a direct reflection of you (or rather, what’s going on within you) but is also a determinant to your own success.

That’s why it’s so important to choose those people wisely – especially when you’re setting out to achieve a huge goal like starting your business.

Exclusive selectivity is a must for you – just like you’re selective about the outfit you wore this morning, what you had for breakfast, the types of restaurants and shops you frequent – you’ve got to de deliberate and selectively choose the people who you rub elbows with socially and professionally.

Like attracts like, always. And everyone on your immediate reality is a direct reflection of you. Negative, envious people will always gravitate towards each other. So will fake and superficial people, visionaries, Debbie-downers, and angry people. Get it?

We’re energetic beings – and our “vibes” and attitudes rub off on those around us and vice versa. Surround yourself with people of like energy and attitude, high aspirations and big thinkers, go-getters, givers, doers. Share of yourself with those that are walking a similar path or have already risen to the next level. Find and gravitate to those people who share and support your visions and goals; those people who will hold you up when you slip down a level.

You’ve heard the expression “monkey see, monkey do?” There’s these nifty little systems in our brains that are called: “Mirror Neurons”. Via these neurons we emulate and process others’ actions and feelings. They allow us to automatically simulate the actions we observe in other in our own brains. (To learn more about mirror neurons, go to this NY Times article: http://www.nytimes.com/2006/01/10/science/10mirr.html)

Mary Kay Ash (top female entrepreneur in American History!) said something that has stuck with me, I apply it to all areas of my life and your life will change when you also begin applying it: Don’t take advice from someone you’re not willing to trade places with.

So the next time someone knocks you for your desires and goals, or the next time someone criticizes your business or idea – ask yourself: Am I willing to trade places with this person? Are they what I aspire to be, do or have?

If the answer is no – then dammit, move on and do not give that person’s words or action a second thought. If the answer is yes then consider it constructive feedback and welcome the experience as a stepping stone to do better.


Action, action, action:

This week:

1- Take inventory of the people you’ve been spending most time with. Who are they? How do they choose to show up in the world? What are their personal, professional and financial circumstances? What effect do they have on your energy space when you’re with them? (ie – do they leave you feeling drained or down?) Are you willing to trade places with them?

2- Make a list of the top five people you’d like to begin spending most of your time with. Who are your friends, contacts and acquaintances that can propel your vision forward? Who’s doing it or has done it already? Who’s 10, 20 50 steps ahead of you? Who’s making things happen? Who’s energy and attitude would you like to emulate?

3- Make it happen. What steps can you take to get it done TODAY? Make a call? Send an email or Facebook message? Do it.

ARE YOU TIRED OF BEING IN THE SAME SITUATION, YEAR AFTER YEAR, DAY AFTER DAY?

Well then, this article will slap you back to reality! I know it definitely did for me. As a business owner, I am always looking to expand my business - I have huge goals... call me overzealous, ambitious or a deliberate creator...

This article is for all entrepreneurs and business owners who have been circling the comfy known territory far too long... You can spin and spin on that hamster wheel, but at the end of the day - you've GOT to take INSPIRED action, trust in your gut, and treat your business vision as if your very breathing depended on it...

A special thank you to Fabienne Frederickson, for I have been stuck in my own rut for far too long... and now, as 2010 nears, I am determined to overcome my own limiting inner dialogue, along with any self-imposed hurdles, and MAKE IT HAPPEN for my business... I do hope you will follow suit with yours!


The ONE Self Sabotaging Thing You Do Every Day That Keeps You From Making 7-Figures In Your Business:

QUOTE: “Most people confuse wishing and wanting with pursuing. You must place your trust in ACTION.” – Price Pritchett

I’ve been hearing this one question a lot recently: “Fabienne, what did you actually DO to multiply your 1ncome so quickly? How did you get to a million and can I do it too?” Well, the answer is “Yes, you can do it too” and it’s important to realize that it comes down to several different things: Authentic and compelling marketing, systems for everything, a team, different sources of 1ncome, leverage, etc.

But, believe it or not, those are actually the easy part, because you can be shown exactly how to do this (I show you how in my Workshop-in-a-box). The difficult part is actually a two step process, two steps that seem very simple on the outside, but that few people actually DO anything about. In fact, this process is so deceptively simple that most people ignore its importance and look for something way more complex. But it comes down to:

1. Make a decision
2. Do what it takes

I know, it might seem like child’s play, but most people never actually get clear about WHAT they want in the first place, and then they don’t make a commitment to getting it. So the first thing to do is to decide that you are going to reach a big goal. Then, you must be OK with doing whatever it takes to get it, as if your life depended on it.

Believe it or not, that’s where most people fail in this process. They throw out a lofty goal, but when it comes to actually DOING what it takes, they let their mindset and their fears get in the way. The ideas and opportunities to reach that big goal are right there, smack in front of them, but they don’t take action on them. I saw this happen recently with a client. She asked me, “Fabienne, I set this huge goal for myself, and the year’s almost over, but I’m not even halfway to reaching it. What happened? What am I doing wrong?”

The answer I gave her was that, despite the lofty goal, her BEHAVIOR hadn’t changed very much. Despite progress in other areas, she kept stopping herself, and kept doing the same things, worrying about the same things (”not knowing how”, “not enough mo-ney”, “not enough time”, you know the drill…)

We’d given her all the different ways to make her goal happen quickly and two-fold, but she never implemented the ideas. The HOW was right in front of her, but she got in her own way, and essentially sabotaged her potential 1ncome by not taking action on the idea. And that’s one thing that I’ve gotten really clear about recently. The “how” is always right there, right under your nose, ready for the picking.

In fact, there was a time in my own business, not too long ago, where I could never have imagined making this much in one year. But the opportunities to do so were already there. In fact, one idea that I implemented last year was an idea that I’d had 4 years prior. 4 years!!! And that idea was one that would have brought in a ton of mo-ney back then. Sure, I researched it, did a little bit of due diligence, even asked my ezine subscribers if they had resources and got tons of them. I went as far as investing in the resources I needed to take advantage of that opportunity.

Then, guess what happened?

Nothing, nada, zip. I never did ANYTHING about it. I let the opportunity get stale and covered with dust, and it’s because of several different obstacles:

1. My excuse of “not having enough time” to implement it
2. My fear of failure
3. Essentially, my belief that I wasn’t “good enough” to succeed with it

And so, I never achieved the 1ncome potential that this opportunity had in store for me. I’m kicking myself now, but at least, I took action 4 years later.

Here’s the thing: you must realize that the ideas that are given to you are not just silly ideas. They are divinely brought to you. My mentor always says, “If you are given an idea, then too you are given the way to achieve it. You wouldn’t be able to have the idea without also receiving the ‘way’ to accomplish it too. It’s universal law.” And that’s really important for you to remember.

Until you are ready to see what’s already right under your nose, without discounting it as “not feasible”, you aren’t going to grow. Remember that the idea you got in the shower, or the idea your mastermind members brainstormed with you didn’t actually come from them or you. It was divinely given THROUGH them.

And you are given ideas like these ALL THE TIME! It is the Universe’s way of guiding you on a daily basis, literally pulling you by the hand and pointing you in the direction that will help you accomplish your dreams, but the question is… are you listening? Are you going to do something about it?

If you’re not where you want to be financially in your business, one of the major reasons is your non-action. If you’re still at the same place you were before, it’s because you’re unwilling to take advantage of the opportunity that is right in front of you, and has been for a long time.

And I know you’re probably tired of hearing, “To get different results, you need to do things differently”, but in my experience (especially last year) it is absolutely true. To get a quantum leap in your business, you must be willing to DO what you haven’t done before, to be courageous, to walk into the opportunity and even to walk into the fear you have associated with it.

And please don’t let the simplicity of what I’m telling you undermine the importance of the message. This ‘arrogance’ of thinking, “Oh, I already know that!” is another form of self-sabotage and it’s keeping you from making a whole lot more in your business. Here’s an example: Someone told me last year that some of this is “basic” stuff. That they’d already knew this.

Frankly, I felt bad for this person. I almost wanted to say, “OK then, if you already “know” this, what’s YOUR 1ncome this year?” You see, your 1ncome will be your gauge to see how much you “know” this stuff. If it’s not where you want it to be, then you don’t “know” it yet, you’ve just “heard” of it. In fact, you don’t “know” anything until you live it, breathe it and take action on it day in and day out. Makes sense?

Your Client Attraction Assignment:

Get clear on the opportunities that are right under your nose. Take a sheet of paper and at the top, write down your big goal. Don’t be shy, no one’s watching. In big, bold letters, write what you want in your business. Then, either knowing (or pretending) that you could not fail, list all the opportunities that you already have right in front of you to make those happen. I know they’re there. I can always spot them for people and that’s the power of a mastermind. Having people see the opportunities that are right in front of you. But list them all. And then begin to take action on each and every one of them with courage and fearlessness. Your 1ncome will never be the same.

All that said, I urge you NOT to forget the authentic and compelling marketing, systems for everything, a team, different sources of income, leverage, etc. When you market authentically and consistently, using ONLY what works, your goals become big-time easy. When you set up systems for everything in your business and a team to support you, you have more time to devote to implementing the big opportunities. When you set up additional sources of 1ncome, both passive and leveraged, you make a whole lot more, working half the time.

Not sure where to start with all of this? The solution is The Client Attraction Workshop-in-a-Box. It avoids all the extraneous stuff that could distract your growth and instead gives you the most important things to do to make twice as much, working half the time. It’s my own process, the one I’ve shared with my top-level clients and you’ll be blown away by how precise and generous I am with the “how”. Every resource is laid out. The closing-the-sale script, the way to make passive 1ncome easily, everything. It’s all step-by-step, not a big mishmash of things. So, you do step one, and when you’re done with that, you move on to step two, and so on. All the tools are handed to you on a silver platter. Just look at the success stories and get your own copy at www.ClientAttractionWorkshopInaBox.com.

Fabienne Fredrickson, The Client Attraction Mentor, is founder of the Client Attraction System , the proven step-by-step program that shows you exactly how to attract more clients, in record time…guaranteed. To get your F.R.E.E. Audio CD by mail and receive her weekly marketing & success mindset articles on attracting more high-paying clients and dramatically increasing your income, visit www.ClientAttraction.com.

Making peace with NOW.

Do you ever just wish you could hit the Fast Foreward button in your life? Are your thoughts leaning toward what's not currently working, what's missing or how much better things would be if this and that changed? It's normal to feel this way, although that mindset does rob us of many things - one of them being our energy. When we're focused on what's wrong or missing we expend a lot of our inner energy that could otherwise be used much more productively.

We are where we are and that's OKAY. Our present situation is a direct result of our PAST thoughts, feelings, and choices. In order to create something different we need to change our point of focus NOW. Here are some steps I've used in my own life and with my clients to start shifting that point of attraction to create different results:



1. Make peace with your NOW: How do you do that when your credit card debt is sucking you dry, when there's too much month at the end of the money, or when you're going through a rough patch? It starts by going within, and really scanning what you're grateful for. I suggest my clients focus on 3-5 things they're grateful for EACH morning - and really harness the powerful emotion of gratitude. Starting out each day with this small practice can change the course of your day, week, month - life! So, right NOW, name three things you're grateful for in your life... ready, set, go!




2. Crystallize that Clarity! Once you've changed your vibration, the next step is to get CLEAR about what you want to create... by knowing what we DON'T want, we get clear about what we DO want - so start putting your powerful intention to use! This is where working with a coach, whether it's me or another life coach, will come in handy. A coach will help you get the picture of your life desires clear and strong. Most people find this step difficult because their egoic mind starts chatting at this point: "What are you thinking?" "You can't do that!", "You're shooting too high, there's no way that can ever happen", "I'm not smart enough", "I don't have what it takes" - the bla-bla-bla's go on forever... but how are you ever going to move forward if you give in to this negative inner chatter? You've got to question those thoughts - put them to the test! This is also an area where a coach would be extremely useful - we all live inside our heads most of the time, and we need a powerful outer voice to help us see the total vision of our reality. So, get clear about what you want.



Here's one thing I have my clients do: Write a letter to yourself, dating it one year from now. In this letter, let your intuition and imagination flow - describe EVERY AREA of your life as you would want it - have fun with this! There's no doing it wrong :)


3. Excitement for whats coming: You are the creator of your reality! Whether you like it or not, whether you act as if you're not - there's no escaping it - outside circumstances and people do not create it for you. As a deliberate creator, your power lies in your positive expectation and excitement for what you want to achieve. It's like the rocket fuel that propels you to the top. Sit for a few minutes, close your eyes, breathe in deeeeply, and start to visualize your successes as if they're already here. Studies conducted on Olympic athletes show that our brains do not know how to distinguish between what's actually happening and what we visualize. Meaning - our visualizations have power to get our brains to help us achieve our goals! Did you know that? I could tell you lots more on the subject, but we'll save that for another blog post or coaching workshop.


Harness this power with your own mind - do this consistently, each day and the proof will be in the pudding! It's all about excitement - for this is one of the highest emotions vibrationally speaking :)


If you want to know more about my coaching services and how I can help you implement these plans to create powerful change and much, much more - contact me at: osmara@padmacoaching.com or call me at: 786.291.2945.

Love, Abundance & Glow to you!

O.