When doubt creeps in...

Inevitable in your business building journey is the reality that you will feel very strong doubt that your new venture will actually work. After all, you’ve never done anything like this before so why would it based on past precedent? You’re in unchartered land, and you feel like you’re going at it blind.

Perhaps the vision you hold of yourself limits your sense of self-worth and whether you think, feel and believe you deserve the success you seek. You’re not good enough. You don’t know what the f&*% you’re doing or saying… might start creeping in your head…

Aaaaah, the good ol’ voice of doubt. So powerful, so overbearing.

I admit it – I have my bad days when everything seems grey and hopeless...

The following is what keeps me going, try one or try them ALL preferably:

1. I think: “There are many other individuals, just like me, who ARE doing it. And doing it successfully!” Find evidence of others’ success.

2. Bring yourself right back to NOW. Because when you’re in that mental and emotional space you’re way into the future – an unwanted future that hasn’t happened yet. Remember – your present is dictating your future…

3. Question those negative thoughts. Challenge them – probe… Ask yourself: “Do I know this to be 100% true”.

4. Release. Release. Release. Give up your need to control the situation… Surrender to a higher power – whatever that is for you.

5. Ask! You have no idea what a powerful creator and attractor you are… Ask for guidance, reassurance, anything!

6. Stop thinking about HOW you’re going to get there… Keep your goal and mental picture at the forefront of your mind.

7. Remember: Any goal that’s worthy of you is going to stretch what you’ve previously accomplished!



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Dealing with critics and haters in business...

“The levers are here. The proof is here. The power is here. The only thing holding you back is your own fear. Not easy to admit, but essential to understand.” –Seth Godin, Tribes

You’ve been flirting with the idea of going solo and starting your own business for a while. The more you think about it, the more excited you get. You can see it in your mind – what a beautiful vision. You start getting worked up and gung-ho about it… Till either IT strikes, or the fear of IT striking strikes: What if you put yourself out there, bare your soul, passion and heart to the world… and they hate it.

Our fear and almost phobia-like dread of criticism and judgment is what really paralyzes us. It’s just as bad as being stripped naked in front of a bunch of people. Complete horror. We are so committed to looking good, being liked and accepted that it shapes who we are – or at least the face we show the world. Like a little puppy begging for attention, inside we are silently shouting the same: “Like me! Like me! Like me! (because if you don’t I am worth jack shit)”. Authenticity goes right out the window.

Truth: there will always be people who aren’t going to like you or your work. But should that stop you from freeing your voice, passion and vision? Should it keep you small and silent in the shadows of the masses for fear of being singled out? Will that make for a fulfilling and elevated life?

Guess what? Your real power is totally independent from what others think of you and whether or not they like you. Just as it’s inevitable that those people will criticize you and/or your work, it’s just as inevitable that you’re going to find fans – those who are so aligned with your vision they naturally gravitate towards you. They then share your message with other soon-to-be fans and voila – you’ve gone viral.

But, you’ll never give yourself a chance to see that bloom if you stay small. When you find your passion, your WHY, your unique voice – you also find your strength. That’s what badasses are – they are so in love with their vision, the mark they’re leaving in their worlds and the ripple effect to those who can benefit from their work that they are willing to deal with a few critics. They boldly face this so-called opposition head on, because they know that it will only make them STRONGER.

That’s the thing about critics – if you’re brave enough to be you and encounter them as you walk along you will find they are your greatest teachers. They leverage your game. They sharpen your soul and mind. They perfect your mission and vision. (And pssssst – if they’re talking about you, you can feel flattered that they find you worthy of mentioning!)

So this week:

• Find your unique voice – that mission and vision about your business.
• Communicate that message with passion.
• Silently thank and bless your “haters” and use them to make you better.
• Do not give up – even when you’re in tears.

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Unwritten. By: Osmara Vindel

I remember first listening to Nastasha Bedingfield's song "Unwritten" right as I moved to London UK, back in 2005. Freshly graduated from college, I was naive, eager, and a true dreamer. My biggest dream then? Get into the advertising world. More specifically the account management side of it. I was consumed with studying the biggest advertising firms in town, learning as much as I could about their structure, their clients, their work, the job description, you name it.

And as I would take the "Tube" or underground metro system to each interview, I'd plug in my ipod, and drift away... "Unwritten" was my dream song. After so much effort, I was offered two great advertising jobs simultaneously, only to be turned down later because of my "Non-European" citizenship. I was told it was too lengthy of a process to issue a work permit - it would take a lot of money and a few months to get things squared away; naturally - it was not in the company's best interest to go down this route. I was crushed. I saw my dream fade from my sight... not knowing what I now know, I simply gave up and made up a victim-mentality story about how "hard" it was to find my dream job in London.

This song always pulled me through... and I had not heard it in quite a while until today. Today, it took on a new meaning. I now have a completely different career - and all I can say is - thank you Universe for closing that door for me!!!

I LOVE what I do, and feel like I've truly found my passion and my life purpose.

So here are the lyrics to the song - let them soak in - and see what meaning they hold for you:

I am unwritten. Can’t read my mind. I’m undefined. I’m just beginning the plans in my head ending unplanned. Staring at the blank page before you, looking out the dirty window, let the sun illuminate the words that you cannot find, reaching for something in the distance so close you can almost taste it – release your inhibitions, feel the rain on your skin… no one else can feel it for you, only you can let it in, no one else, no one else can speak the words on your lips… drench yourself in words unspoken, live your life with arms with open, TODAY is where your book begins, the rest is still unwritten… I break tradition, sometimes my tries, are outside the lines…We've been conditioned to not make mistakes, but I can't live that way…

We are the originators of our experience. Period. It's not our partners, family, boss, or anything else outside of us. The canvas is blank - and we fill it in with color. If we firmly believe that the Universe/God/Christ/Buddha/Source/ ______ (fill in the blank with whatever you are comfortable with) is working with us to create what we want, and if we believe that this Universe is 100% abundant - the canvas changes, as does the lens through which we view it.

I know this is hard to believe and feel when we're focused on the "OUT THERE": the tangible world where we see lack, limitation, sadness, competition, and self loathing. But this miopic view of our reality is really just a thin veil - that when pierced changes everything... Believe you me, I've been there more times than I'd like to count!

What would it be like to view your life through different eyes? Where has your focus been? "I don't have enough money", "I'm so broke", "I hate my fat, ugly body", "My partner never appreciates me", "I'm such a ditz", "I hate my job", "Growing my business is tough in this economy", "Finding paying clients is so hard","Things will never change"...

Well, hate to break it to you but - you're right.

"WHETHER YOU THINK YOU CAN OR YOU CAN'T - EITHER WAY YOU ARE RIGHT"

How can you start to tell a different story? I mean, you're stuck in this life and in your body for now, might as well tell a story worth telling right? Just remember your life is what you make of it.... nothing, NOOOOOTHIIIIIING is inherently good or bad - it's your perception that labels it so.

The point is this: Go for it. Try. Fail. Mess up. Learn. Try again... Think outside of the box... be willing to be daring. Move opposite of the herd.

Whatever your deep desire is, whatever your life and business visions are - NO ONE IS GOING TO MAKE THEM HAPPEN FOR YOU. You, and you alone are the captain of your vessel. So what are you waiting for?

If you want this new year to be any different/better than this present one - you've got to change the way you think/act/feel... Remember, you cannot solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it. Those are not my words - they're Einstein's words... he's got some pretty big clout if you ask me.

Change is the operative word for 2010... live by it... hug it. Change is your ally, and remember - a goal that stretches you, make your fears surface, and shakes you up is a WORTHY goal indeed!

DARE TO BE STRETCHED IN 2010!

If you're serious about shifting your life and/or business, and want a personal coach by your side to aid you in that shift, then email me at: osmara@padmacoaching.com or call me at: 786.291.2945 and I'll be your biggest ally.

Envision.Materialize.Glow,

O.